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Hey moms. I feel like I have been MIA. Please know I think of you all so often. After battling the flu for two weeks, which then exasperated an Asthma that I developed several yrs ago, my husband and I went to the shore with family. It was a warm October weekend. My sister in law wanted to be near the beach and boardwalk for the kids. I took one step into a no Tell Motel, and the odor of dampness and probably mold, sent my asthma into overdrive. Doctors, X-rays, blood, many many Rxs, and constant coughing for over 3 weeks, I am finally am feeling human again. I received a wonderful letter from an inmate I sent a birthday card and letter too. Makes me feel good, that my note made a difference. Michael is doing great. He has been home 6 mos. working his program, and working hard at his job. Moms there is hope.
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Still Hanging On

Mother passed away November 9th. She fought cancer for ten years, wonderful lady. I will miss her more than words can express. My surgery is scheduled at the beginning of December. Kinda scary knowing I'll be under about eight hours and three different surgeons working on me during that time. Got to stay at least a week in the hospital including ICU. Sure wish my mom was going to be there with me. This is going to be some difficult holidays coming up. Good news is he made his mediums which means he may be able to get closer to home. His hugs can make my life so much better and I've been to sick to travel the six hours one way to see him. They are slowly coming off lockdown, so he's able to call more often. I miss him so very much. I buried a container with papers and stuff for him when he gets out in case I'm not here. Got a storage building for his things. Fixed the legal papers. Whew, it''s been crazy but I've done all I could do to make sure he's still got something to come home to. Now I'm getting myself and home ready for post surgery. This has been a hard year and the rest of it isn't looking to good right now. Gotta fight the battles to win the war. I trust in my Lord and pray for his will to be done. My faith is the only way to bear these burdens. Emotional pain physically hurts but the comfort I feel when crying out to God is amazing. Very thankful for my blessings and the love I feel. Life would be so much harder without MISS as y'all help so much just understanding how a mother feels about her child. Hoping better days are ahead for all of us. God Bless Y'all.

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Happy Thanksgiving @ Merry Christmas To Everyone ✝️

I WANT TO THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR PRAYERS WHEN I WAS TOLD IHAD BLADDER CANCER , YOUR PRAYERS HELPED ME THROUGH ALL .WE ALL WHAT OUR CHILDREN HOME , SON. DAUGHERTY, FATHER ,MOM ETC . I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH ALL OF YOU THROUGH YOURPRAYERS MY SON HAS MADE PAROLE , ITS BEEN A LONG THREE YEARS BUT GOD IS GOOD , THE WINDOW WILL BE GONE , THE CUFFS WILL COME OFF ,THE SHAGLES WILL COME OFF , NO MORE CHAINS , ON MARCH 29 , 2018 God will LET THE LIGHT IN AND OPEN THE DOORS FOR HIS CHILD , AND SET HIM FREE , PLEASE DONT EVER GIVE UP , WE HAVEA POWER GOD ABOVE ALL OF US , HE IS LOVE , THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR PRAYERS , LOVE , @ KINDNESS AS I GIVE GOD THE GLORY ,BLESS EVERYONE , HAVE A HEALTHY HAPPY 2018 as I hold all families in prayer , love you all , blessing , Elaine ✝️
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My story

Hello,

My name is Angel. Im 37 years old and this is my first time blogging or even being part of an online group. Forgive me if I do not know the lingo. Im familiar with Snap chat lol. But anyway, my first born son was just sentenced to 23 years 8 months. He was arrested March 2016 just 2 months after his 18th birthday and has been in county jail ever since. He will be shipped off to prison in just a few weeks. Trial was one of the hardest things I've gone through. I felt like I was emotionally beat up every day for 2 weeks. But I had to be there for my son. Then came the conviction, and sentencing was just last Friday. My son will not be home for a very long time. Im looking for ways to cope and hoping to meet other mothers that know exactly what Im going through. This isn't the type of thing you let your co-workers know or I do not feel comfortable telling them. Family and friends do not know what this feels like as they have not been in my shoes fortunately. They try to be supportive but I can tell they are just trying to find the right words to say.

Im sad, I get angry, and Im scared to death of what my son will have to face in prison. I feel the enhancement laws are not fair and that they are unjust. My son would have got a sentence less than 10 years but due to the enhancement law he received more than double the sentence. How does this provide a chance to rehabilitate? An over extended stay in prison at such a young age? Its just not fair.

Well thanks for hearing me. And hello to you all.

Angel

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Sentenced

My son received his sentence on his bday 10/24 he has since been moved to downstate NY reception facility for processing, classification.
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Homecoming!!

For the last 76 weeks I have spent an hour a week visiting my son in the county jail. Visiting has often been challenging; with thick glass between us, on often staticky phones while sitting on a hard slab of concrete! Sometimes with long waits and crowded noisy visiting rooms yet other times with no waits and quiet, almost peaceful visits. Regardless of the circumstances, my hope is that because of my visits, my son knows that his family has been there with him through this. I hope, too, that he will now realize most of the people that he chose over family almost two years ago are nowhere to be found, but his family is patiently waiting for his return!! I have had the luxury of having his undivided attention for an hour a week, sharing with him the ups and downs of daily family life, talking about the day to day happenings of politics; hurricanes and other newsworthy events and his plans and goals when he's out. I also take this time to talk about the path he chose and why he might have chose this path, how to ask for help and seek resources if he feels himself sliding that direction.I don't know how he could be my child with such low self-esteem. His dad and I were present and active in the young lives of our children; going on road trips, attending every practice and game in sports and supporting their education. How did this child grow up with such low self-esteem choosing drugs to help him cope and manage with his life. I have some guesses at this; depression, peer pressure, anxiety, etc, but they are only that. He is so bright and witty with a sense of humor that even our youngest family members enjoy. He also has this vulnerability that tears at my heart, which has lead me to enabling some of his behaviors. I've taken my responsibility of this and am determined to stand up to that!I am more aware of the "ins and outs" of jail procedures and rules. I am more aware of the unfairness of sentencing and the disparity in the courts and the jails and prisons. Sadly, I know what "the hole" is and how a 23 hour in of a 24 hour day plays on a psyche!! I've always been one to believe in second chances and realize that people are driven to bad decisions for a variety of reasons. I realize that mental health is a huge issue in our prisons and yet it continues to go unnoticed and under treated. I don't think a jail/prison sentence is the answer. I am aware that although there are a few CO's that may be fair, there are so many that are not, and the insults they impose only add to the injuries of inmates. And those injured that might step up to speak out have horrendous consequences.The first two weeks my son was in, I couldn't manage to go visit. My heart was broken. I was wrought with sadness and worry. I keep wondering where I went wrong with this child! After my two week mourning I was able to visit. I put on a brave face and visited, then cried all the way home. I can't say it got easier, but it became my new normal, as is the common saying amongst mothers of incarcerated children.Tomorrow my son comes home. 78 weeks later. I am luckier than so many. Our time has been short, but no less painful. I believe in second chances! We will embrace him and welcome him back into our home in hopes that he takes this opportunity to stand back up and meet his plans and goals. The journey now is much more difficult than it was before, but I am hopeful!
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One Day at a Time

Finished radiation, surgery in November, my mother had a stroke and is at hospice, her cancer is terminal, haven't seen my son since June and his birthday is this month. Counting my blessings and keeping faith in Jesus. Some times when I don't think I can take anymore I remember there's people that would trade places with me. Praying for all us mothers suffering because of bad decisions by others. Thanks to this wonderful group I gather strength knowing someone understands the pain that unconditional love causes. I'm not sure I could have made it without y'all. Breathe and hold on cause this ride is very difficult, thanks to some of these ladies we know it's worth it. Y'all are awesome

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Help

I don't know how this works, but I am lost. I don't know if this is where I should be....I am lost.

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Sentenced

Sadly my son is being officially sentenced on his bday 10/24 out of all the days, im doing my best to stay strong!
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Please pray for my son

Two weeks before his perole hearing he was put in the hole when I cAlled they told me was under investigation but the investigator said she isn't investigating my son he isn't on her list it's been over thirty days and now we find out the warden put him in the hole then we hear the paper hasn't been sent to the investigator he hasn't gotten any write ups I don't know what to so please pray for him .
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New member rita

just received your approval. Thank you. I seen my son today he is getting worse he says he docent know how much longer he can hold on. As I mentioned before he has suffered with mental illness since he was 5 he is in calcasieu correctional in lake Charles Louisiana. He has history if suicide attempts one being in the jail before they are well aware its in their records. Today I spoke with warden and pshyciatrist. The guards inside have threaten to have him killed they are taunting him every morning depriving him of sleep and waking him up a 2 am to take a shower they do not let him call public defender he has been trying since last Tuesday.they keep telling him that they are to busy to let him call lawyer. There is a St duhon ,cornier and a woman correctional officer m.Taylor who filed a complaint stating my son said he wAS going to kill her however the camera would show that wouldn't it? Also my son offered to take a lie detector test regarding that matter but they told him..,,Na we don't need to do all that....there is alto going on..the threat on his life was from a sgt cornier who stated when my son got across the street (which is where they send people waiting for trial) that he is going to get killed because he can get an inmate to do anything for the right price.. This was reported to warden burkenhaulter today weather or not something will be done I don't know. My son is incarcerated at the same jail that the son of who he is accused of gravely hurting.guards are taunting him everyday with statements of your going to die today.......my son has several severe mental disorders since he was 5 he is confined in a 3x12 cell like solitude. He did not look well today and begged me to see what I can do to have him transferred now and so he can have a fair trial...if you or anyone in this group can help guide me in the right direction it would be so greatfully appreciated. I am new to this site I don't even know how to get on my page ..I would like to post this letter in hopes someone can see my situation in Louisiana and offer advice.. Thank you so much for allowing me to join this group...sincerely RITA STEWART......... My son has been convicted and tried by the calcasieu correctional center..he has not had his day in court as he was arrested and accused on August 14 2017......however the guards have determined my son should be killed and mistreated without knowing the facts of this case. Doj. Has also received a copy of this letter..there is so much more to this case and story it would be nice to have an outsider see what's going on in this jail and state.....
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NEW MEMBER

Hello! New to this site.. My  23 year old son was sentenced to 6-15 years in prison July 6th. He is at the Oaks correctional facility in Manistee michigan. I am awaiting visitation clearance and can't wait to see him.

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Hoping this helps someone

I found this today and It made me feel so good I am going to send this to my son tomorrow  hope this may inspire some moms or dads to do the same... I know my son will love to read this over and over and hopefully think of his future  

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Hi Everyone.

How are all you moms doing? I have not fallen off the face of the earth, life has just been happening. Come September I want to get back into the cards program. I think about all of you daily. Michael has been home almost 3 months. Although not always easy, he is facing his recovery head on. Since the day he was released, he has attended almost 2 mtgs everyday, if not at least 1. Speaking and chairing mtgs, and speaking at rehabs. I hope someday, he can speak at the local jail, where his journey started yrs ago. He will be done his IOP on August 23rd. He completed 4 weeks of Life Skills classes, and is working on getting a job in a new treatment facility.Today, he sat in on a sentencing of a man that sold a lethal dose of fentanyl to a friend of his, who died while he was incarcerated. He went to support his friends family.Drugs are rampant in our town, and something needs to be done.He shook the hand of the Police officer who was part of the undercover setup of him, during his active addiction. He spoke to the woman who was in charge of drug court, that he failed at. I am beyond amazed at the changes he has made. As awful as it was having my son incarcerated, it was what worked for him. I will be glad when he gets his license back, and is gainfully employed. Blessings to everyone.Now have to deal with the company my husband worked at for 36 yrs closing, leaving him with nothing. And now some health concerns for him. I know the Lord will continue to provide for us.
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One Day at a time

I havent been able to get on here for a while now. Today I finally was able to get internet. I have a car now and am able to visit my son on my own and for that I am grateful. I am on a tight budget as I am on disability. My sons appeals have been denied but he is staying strong and healthy. He has been in prison for 3 years now and has to serve 25 before he is eligable for parole. I try not to think that far ahead I try to stay in the moment. The first 2 years were pure hell. All the what ifs and hows ? None of that matters I try to remind him that sometimes we arent able to change our situation but we can try to make the best of a shitty situation. Just wanted to share that with you all. ive missed being on here because in the beginning I was going out of my mind with worry. I still worry and I still pray for him everyday. I try to visit him when I can but knowing hes okay today is enough to get me through each day. Ive seen him struggle with drugs and have seen him beat up nothing hurts more than seeing your child hurt. But he has healed and today he is clean. So just for today I am grateful. One day at a time 

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To the Letter Writing Moms

I'm just going to throw a general huge "Thank you!" out to the moms who write to my kiddo.  He so looks forward to receiving your letters and cards.  Especially the ones that make him laugh!  :)  It's such a huge blessing to feel like someone outside is thinking of him and cares enough to drop a line.  So - from the bottom of my heart you have my gratitude.  You ladies ROCK!!

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