I just read that HIV is spreading like wild fire in prison. Do they get the HIV medicine if they get HIV in prison? THe thought of my son getting raped and getting HIV is beyond my worst nightmares. His twin has HIV and tried to commit suicide 10 times from the shame. The meds are working but they cost $2000.00 per month. They should separate the positive inmates so the chances of it spreading will be less. Is this not a nightmare?
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http://asmonline.org/programs_law_prosecutors.asp check out this link, there's also forms in which if something happens to your son they will contact you, and you have the right to stay in cahoots with medical in jail it's called the ART Forms or first responders forms.
had a nice visit on Saturday. He has gotten a job hope it works out. It was so nice to be able to give him a hug and just talk about TV and movies nothing too important but nice anyway. Next visit won't be till 4/5 but hopefully he will start writing again. so not a to bad weekend.
Just finished watching the video from the Solitary Confinement Conference which was very difficult for me to watch, but very necessary - the Lord got me through it. So much emotion, yet I am so thankful to know that there are many, many moms (dads, sisters, brothers, grandparents, siblings, children, aunts, uncles and friends) that are going through the same thing and that we have a means of support (M.I.S.S.)
Thankful for this group/site that I stumbled across some months ago. Personally, I have to be very guarded as to what I watch, read or listen to when it comes to the topic of incarceration...I have not allowed myself to let the enemy of our souls (satan) mess with my head which is the reason behind my caution; I could become a basket case very easily if I allowed myself to "dwell" on my sons situation (life without the possibility of parole). I have issues with the prison system in the state of MN for several reasons - to name just a few: my son spent two years in solitary confinement for throwing juice at a Correction Officer that my son felt was harassing him. Two years! The man who shared/preached at the conference said that "for every person that is incarcerated there are three or four people on the outside that are doing time with them" and I surely agree with that statement. My husband and I have seven children, our son Daniel that is in prison is child number 6 and for all of us on the "outside", which amounts to six siblings, two parents, a grandmother, four nieces and one nephew - we are all doing time with Daniel.
I rejoice with and for those whose children will someday come out from among those bars and barbed wire; I turned 60 this past October, I was 50 when my son went to prison and it has not gotten any easier though it has been ten years now. I do want to share a wonderful breakthrough with you all though - because despite our reality, our pain and our struggle, we put our hope and our trust in Almighty God and know that no matter what, He has our back (as the one sister so beautifully demonstrated at the conference - I can't remember her name); we have to have each others backs and lift one another up to the Throne of Grace in prayer. Now, back to my testimony. My sons Jacob and Daniel are 11 months apart in age, growing up they were connected at the hip (figuratively speaking) - when Daniel went to prison it took a huge toll on Jacob; so huge in fact that Jacob has not seen Daniel for ten years. The first few years Jacob was so angry that he would not talk about Daniel, wouldn't visit and wouldn't write or even talk to him on the phone. Several years down the line Jacob came to faith in Christ and put himself in Bible College. Fast forward to 2012, Jacob is now finished with Bible College, is married and is a pastor/preacher of the Gospel. He began writing and talking on the phone with Daniel when he enrolled in Bible College, but for various reasons he still had never been out to have an actual visit with his brother though he tried on several occasions. I have been praying for ten years for Jacob and his sister Michelle (who is the next closest to Daniel in age) to go and visit their brother. This past week Jacob was officially approved for visiting, which means that any day now these two brothers will finally see one another face to face! I believe this will be not only a physical breakthrough but a spiritual one; you see Daniel was walking with the Lord at one time and he fell away and ended up in the situation that put him in prison. My heart is overwhelmed - what really matters here is that Daniel would once again surrender his life to Christ. That is the cry/prayer of our entire family and we stand upon the Word of God and exercise our faith in believing every promise that the Lord has given us in the scriptures. He will restore the "years" that the cankerworm has eaten...Joel 2:25, For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable...Rm 11:29 - to name of few.
On those days that are difficult I take a deep breath and raise my eyes toward heaven and thank the Lord for all that He has done in our family and continues to do; we are a work in progress as a family. He is restoring, and reconciling, and healing; He has delivered my children from gangs, drugs, alcohol, lives of violence and addiction and raised them up in ministry with us and they are now reaching others with the love of God, they are encouraging parents, grandparents and others to never quit praying. Our youngest son is a Christian Rapper (goes by the name G.U.Y. - God Uses You) and he just finished writing and singing a song called: Parents Who Pray.
I will not let my natural/carnal eye influence me, I will continue to look life in the spiritual realm and take God at His Word and I encourage you all to do the same. Together we can bring change: to ourselves, others and to the Correctional System. God Bless You All.
My youngest son is 26 years old and this is second time in prison. The first time was when he was 17 to 24, then he got out for a year and a half, made a big mistake, went to jail, pleaded guilty, got DOSA, went to a mim.security camp and gets out next year. when he was out last time, he fathered a real cute baby girl. She is a year and a half. In his previous prison time, my son spent almost a whole year in isolation right before he was let out. He had some adjusting to do. It was hard for him without proper help, and he started to use drugs. Well, the rest is history. When he gets out this time, he will be on strict observation, take random drug tests, be on work release. The whole nine yards. If he fails, he must serve out the remainder of his prison term, which is 8 years. And Of course he doesn't want this to happen. He wants to resume his relationship with his baby girl and so on. This issue will be tough for him because he is an ex convict. I don't have any legal clues where I can help him in this regard, but we will work on it. My son has a brother and sister. No dad. Lots of uncles though. But nobody visits, calls, or writes to him. Except me. And he does notice this. Well, this is my rant for today. haha.bye
visit scheduled for the 1st anxious it will go well....
drove 3.5 hours for visit but didn't get in because they are on lockdown, then 3.5 home in nasty weather, sure hope he is OK, they of course won't give us any info, so typical and so frustrating.
Morning Moms.
Its Valentine's DAy. I woke up crying and can't seem to stop. I miss my son so much. I did pretty good this week. only cried 3 out of 5 days....:)
I hope that each of you have a day that is filled warm, loving memories. Let's hold our children and each other close in our hearts today, and every day.
Sending you GINORMOUS Valentine's Day Hugs.
Love, love, love,
Leah
Good Morning Moms,
In the book of Jeremiah, God says, I know the plans I have for you. Plans of hope and an expected end.
God knows the plans He has for us and our children. His plan is to give us hope for our sorrow, joy for tomorrow and strength for all we go through. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. He sees our tears and stores every single one of them that falls from our eyes in a bottle.
Don't give up hope for your child. Your miracle is waiting for you.
Sending you loving Wednesday wishes and hugs.
Leah
“In our country we call this type of mother love teng ai. My son has told me that in men's writing it is composed of two characters. The first means pain; the second means love. That is a mother's love.”
― Lisa See, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan
I think all of us can relate to this.
Have a blessed day everyone. This is the day that the Lord has made. Rejoice and be glad in it.
The 15th we have our next visit, anxious for a hug and conversation.
So Heather went up to see Tyler today. The prison officer allowed her and the baby go get all the way through, took her into the bathroom to pat her and the baby down, and then told her she couldn't have a visit because she had on a black tee shirt under her jacket and the lady told her she couldn't go it. Heather started to cry and said that she didn't have any money to buy another shirt and she didn't have one in her car. The lady told she didn't know what she expected her to do. Then the baby started crying and saying she wanted to see her daddy. Heather called me in tears. Tyler is at South BAy Correctional Facility in South Bay Florida. The prison officers there are the meanest, most miserable, unsympathetic women that I have ever met in my life. There have been times when I have gone to see Tyler and have had to change my clothes 2 and 3 times.
My heart broke when Heather called and the baby was in the back in her car seat crying 'i wanna see my daddy….why can't i see my daddy?"
i hate this. i hate that other people control who and when someone can see MY child. i hate that this is only year one of 18 years of this foolishness. i hate that my granddaughter has to even go to a prison to see her dad.
i hate all of it.
Hi. I'm new here still trying to figure out how to navigate the site and use it best to both offer and receive support. I love the idea that you are all moms and that many of you seek inspiration and strength from the Lord. I too know that He is the source of my peace, understanding and even the love that I offer others.
I'm wondering if any of you walk the same path as I do. I am the mother of a juvenile lifer. While he is not my biological son, he is my son in every other sense of the word. He is the same age as my oldest and when God placed him in my path, he was alone, without the love of a family.
It is impossible to convey how close we have become over the years and how proud I am of him. He has been in prison 14 years for a crime he was involved in at the age of 15. He was not the trigger person, nor did he even plan or desire the loss of life that occurred----yet he has the same sentence. But aside from the bleakness of his sentence he is a model inmate and well respected by inmates and guards alike. Clearly he is no longer the misguided, homeless young 15 year old he once was. He loves God, does his best to serve him, and has begun course work for a degree in Christian Studies.
Most of the time we do fine. We laugh and joke and push aside our sorrows. If you walked by during a visit you would never know we had a care in the world. But the sorrows are there nevertheless; and as I look at the long road ahead of me there are times I am afraid.
I know many of you experience the same heartache I do. But I wonder if any of you share the same fear that that heartache may never end, ie, that I may be visiting this prison 25 years from now as an old woman, hoping to keep my son's hope from completely extinguishing. I thought it might be helpful to connect with a mom who is enduring the same things as I am.
I have turned it all over to God. He is the source of all my strength and courage. But there are times, like today, that the sadness boils up through the cracks and I just have to cry. I think God understands.
Thank you for reading this--- and for this website. I pray that I may be of some help and service to some of you.
God Bless you all!
Thank you so much Ramona and Grace John for the bday wishes. I have not not reached out here as much as I should, but really appreciate everyone. I was able to visit my Jeff Monday with a contact visit and could actually hug him for the first time in almost six months. It was amazing!!! Still no idea on what he will actually be in for, but trying to be positive and proactive and do anything I can within my means to help him(which isn't as much as I would like)and hope for a positive outcome. I was able to bring him underwear, socks and a tshirt to where he is now, which was really amazing. It made him feel really good. I see how receiving mail is so important to anyone in this situation, so I have been sending him lots of letters and other stuff. I will be reaching out to as many as I can. Life has been a little hard besides dealing with this, but as we know the lord will give us all we can handle and the rest is up to him. I appreciate all the support as this is tough, but with inspiration I can make it. Thank the lord for all the support I have gotten, but it's still so hard...one day at a time and it's ok to cry to let it out and be stronger for tomorrow...
during our visit our son mentioned he was written up for an incident during which he threatened to hurt himself. After they had him in the "naked" room for 3 days he told them he only said that to get away from his cell mate. My question is can I find out if they are aware he has OCD and panic attacks and that is what made him say and do this? They are now threatening to lock him up with the trouble makers and he hasn't been able to do his good time or consoling. Thank you for any info
